Our dislike of daughters is deep rooted. It's in our culture. Next time you attend a traditional kua poojana (ceremony on birth of a baby boy); see someone fasting for their son's long life; next time you see a woman being blessed to 'doodho nahao, pooto phalo';..Next time you read/watch in our popular epics, how all powerful women are mothers' of sons (anywhere from one to about a hundred sons); next time you read/hear bhajans of baby hood of our popular male gods ask yourself; when did we ever, EVER want daughters? It's in our roots. Women in India had just one purpose, to give birth to sons! Many of them think they still have just that one use.
Even in these enlightened times a majority of Hindus are ruled by tradition and custom. Common sense is invariably overruled by tradition. We don't like change, however positive!
Believe it or not.
Killing of a woman, a Shudra or an atheist is not sinful. Woman is an embodiment of the worst desires, hatred, deceit, jealousy and bad character. Women should never be given freedom. (Manu IX. 17 and V. 47, 147)
All women are born of sinful wombs. (Bhagavad-Gita IX 32)
It seems you are not a sinner if you abort a girl-child, you'll be a sinner if you give birth to her!
Once you allow a girl child to be born she is a lifelong liability.
Woman is the source of sorrow. At birth she makes her mother weep. At the time of the puberty she makes her parents weep. At the time of the marriage she makes all her family members and relatives weep. In youth she commits lot of blunders and brings bad name to the entire family, relatives and Varna. She tortures the hearts of her parents, husband and other family members. She is called 'DARIKA' because she is source of sorrow to all. (Aithareya Brahmana)
3.) Do you dislike paying the Income tax? Why? Because you work hard for every penny you earn, yeah? What if it wasn't yours anyway?
A wife, a son and a slave, they three are declared to have no property: the wealth which they earn is (acquired) for him to whom they belong. (Manu IX. 416)
... we have no right on the money we earn; it belongs to our husbands. Don't you just respect this bit of traditional justice?
You don't care? You believe you have a mind of your own...you scored better than the boys in class? Don't let that get you wrong ideas, your place in the hierarchy is preordained:
In childhood a female must be subject to her father, in youth to her husband, when her lord is dead to her sons; a woman must never be independent. (Manu IV. 148)
You wonder why (mis)guided, parents insist that she must make her marriage work, no matter how unhappy she is, it is always her fault? They are guided by the wisdom of our forefathers. Wise Words!
Every woman must be loyal, faithful. obedient honorable to her husband even if he is blind, deaf, dumb, old, physically handicapped, debaucher or, gambler and neglects his wife and lives with his concubine(s). If the husband is unhappy, it would be the fault of his wife. If he cries, she should cry. If he laughs she should laugh. She can only answer humbly to his question. She should not on her own put any question. She should eat only after her husband eats. If he is beating she should not react, but fall on his feet and beg him to pardon her, and kiss his hands and pacify him. If the husband dies she should burn herself to death on his funeral pyre and go along with him to the other world and serve him there in this manner. (Padma Purana)
She who shows disrespect to her husband who is addicted to (some evil) passion, who is a drunkard or diseased, (she) shall be deserted for three months (and be) deprived of her ornaments and furniture.
Nearly all my domestic helpers should be deprived of whatever ornaments and furniture they have, they disrespect their alcoholic addicted husbands.They won't mind being deserted for three months or longer though...many attempt desertion themselves, but are followed by an irate Lord and Master.
You won't believe this gem I unearthed!
Day and night women must be kept in dependence by males (of their families), and, if they attach themselves to sexual enjoyments, they must be kept under one's control. (Manu XI2)
Yup it is us, females of all ages, who pinch bottoms in crowded buses!
Through their passion for men, through their mutable temper, through their natural heartlessness, they become disloyal towards their husbands, however, carefully they may be guarded in this (world). (Manu IX. 15)
Women must particularly be guarded against evil inclinations, however trifling (they may appear); for, if they are not guarded, they will bring sorrow on to families." (Manu XI. 5)
So you know why your movements are monitored and controlled...
None of the acts of women can be taken as good and reasonable. (Manu X.4)
He who carefully guards his wife, preserves (the purity of) his offspring (Manu IX.7)
Their only hope after living such depraved lives is in death, does death make them equal to the rest of the Hindus?
A virtuous woman is one who dies on the funeral pyre of her dead husband and avails the privilege of serving her husband in the other world. (Atharva Veda 18-3-1)
I was concerned about the rites (sanskaras) I would like my kids (both son and daughter) to perform, so I read this carefully.
Women have no right to study the Vedas. That is why their Sanskars are performed without Veda Mantras.
You might think that it is safest to not get her married?
Reprehensible is the father who gives not (his daughter) in marriage at the proper time. (Manu IX. 4)
A girl must be under the care of her father . . . in youth under the care of the husband and in old age under the care of her sons. But she should never be free and independent. (Manu V. 148)
Him to whom her father may give her, or her brother with the father's permission, she shall obey as long as he lives and when he is dead, must not insult his memory. (Manu V. 151)
The husband who wedded her with sacred mantras is always a source of happiness to his wife, both in season and out of season, in this world and in the next. (Manu V1. 53)
Men will be Men, women must be Sati Savitris.
Though destitute or virtuous, or seeking pleasure elsewhere, or devoid of good qualities, yet a husband must be constantly worshipped as a god by a faithful wife. (Manu V. 154)
What's good for the goose is good for the gander?
If anybody gives away a maiden possessing blemishes without declaring them, (the bridegroom) may annul that (agreement or arrangement)) with the evil-minded giver.
And if you thought you could argue and prove all this wrong, read this:
Women have no right to study the Vedas. That is why their Sanskars are performed without Veda Mantras. Women have no knowledge of religion because they have no right to know the Vedas. The uttering of Veda Mantras, they are as unclean as untruth is." (Manu IX. 18)
WOW! Do Indian women accept this? Well, they don't have to, because Indian Constitution protects them from most of the rulings given by these outrageous archaic texts. And we take it easy when it doesn't really affect our daily lives.
This is so outrageous! How come no one's protesting?! Shouldn't we be screaming our lungs out?
A small group did put up a small protest.
At half past four in the evening on 25th of December, 2003, more than hundred activists representing several Dalit, Bahujan and feminist organisations assembled in front of the memorial of Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar at Chaityabhoomi, Dadar and set aflame dummy copies of the Manusmriti, Bhagwad Gita and Ramayana, condemning these texts and thus celebrated the 'Bharatiya Stree Mukti Din'
This surprise gathering focused the fact that there is a need to protest against violent Hindu Revivalist force manifested in Politics.
http://hsctruthout.stopfundinghate.org/footnotes/115.pdf I think we should watch out for this violent Hindu Revivalist force manifesting in Politics.
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