"I need support": Mother who didnt abort her girls
What do you say? Actually, after reading what Mitu wrote, I was left thinking that whilst a man can easily get remarried, who would marry a woman with two daughters? I have an (east-indian) friend in States who recently got divorced from her husband. She is a well-earning professional as well. However, she has a two daughters: 3 year old and 1 year old. She divorced her husband because he was cheating on her. His family didn't offer her any support either because she was a mother to girls. If she had boys, they might have stepped in. She had to move out on her own and takes care of her daughters by herself. There might be financial support from her husband because of the legalities involved but she and her daughters are practically dead for rest of the family. Her husband has remarried. However, she is having a very tough time moving on with her life because no man wants the burden of two daughters.Hi, this is Mitu whose story you have been reading. I am living with my parents and daughters for the past 3 years. Yes, I do not want to divorce him . You know why- he has spoilt my life. My daughters will lose a father because they are girls where as what will he do? Get married again, have sons. This time the girl who comes into her life may not fight it back.
As far as fighting it out is concerned, I am taking him to the court. I have already registered case against him in the crime against women cell. I am a bit afraid of the corruption in the police and judiciary. I have asked my lawyers that if they can ensure no visitation rights for him, I am ready to divorce him today. Also, I am afraid to lose one of my daughters. You all know there is corruption in Judiciary, and according to Hindu adoption act, father is the first gaurdian of a child after 5 years of age.
Can you think of what all he can do? He can get them killed instantly after taking their custody.
I need public support before I file a case. As i told I am not afraid of living alone, I am afraid of all the corruption in the judiciary. That's the reason I have now decided to come into media. I need all of your support to save my daughters, while I file in the court. Do I have your support?
Many women in my place would not have done even what I did. They would have given under the pressure and killed thier daughters or killed themselves. I am fighting it back with the best of my capacity. Also, it is not just about giving them birth, it is ensuring they get all their rights and they do not suffer only because they are girls.
Even after divorce, I`ll stay like I am with my parents. My life wont change much. I am already living the life of a divorcee, but why should I give him the freedom to remarry, and go on with his life?
Any comments for Mitu? How can we support her? I will personally pass her story to as many people as I can. Shall keep updating.